Incels: What does it mean?

But what does it actually mean? Here’s a straightforward look at what incels are, where the term comes from, and why it’s important to understand. 

What does ‘incel’ mean?

‘Incel’ is short for ‘involuntary celibate.’ It’s used by people (mostly men) who feel frustrated because they want a romantic or sexual relationship but struggle to find one. The term started as a way for people to talk about feeling lonely. But online spaces dedicated to incels can sometimes encourage negativity, anger, and harmful ideas, often towards women or society in general.  

Why does it matter?

Most people feel lonely or rejected at some point in their lives, it’s a normal part of being human. But some incel spaces online can make people feel worse instead of better. Instead of offering support, these groups can spread negativity, blame others, and even encourage harmful behaviour. That’s why it’s important to know about incels and be aware of what you’re seeing online. 

What should you do if you come across incel content?

If you see incel-related content online, it’s worth taking a step back. If it’s making you feel negative or angry, it might be best to mute, unfollow, or report the content. 

If you or someone you know is struggling with feelings of loneliness or frustration, talking to a trusted friend, family member, or professional can help. 

The bottom line

It’s okay to feel lonely or frustrated sometimes, but it’s important to find healthy ways to deal with these feelings. Surrounding yourself with positive influences and supportive people can make a big difference.

If something online is making you feel bad, it’s okay to walk away! 

How to get help

If you have any more questions on this area or would like to speak to somebody about this topic, have a look at the links or search for your local services in the blue box below. Alternatively you can always contact your school nurse.

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