Understand what grieving is and how to manage your daily life.

How does grieve make us feel?

Initially you may feel in a state of shock, even If the death has been anticipated. You may feel faint, dizzy, unable to control your tears, and even feel angry. Some people who have suffered a loss may feel numb that they display no emotion and appear very controlled, calm and detached. This feeling of numbness can last several days and can be a form of emotional protection. Some people may not want to accept what has happened and this can result in denying or refusing to talk about the loss of someone. Overtime, it is important to find ways to deal and accept the death. The sadness remains but becomes part of an adjusted life, and you can look to the future, while still recalling happy times spent with the person who has died and taking pleasure in those memories.

Ways to help you feel better

• Exercise- It is important to remember that bereavement affects everyone differently and grief is different for everyone. Some people find that focusing on something specific can help to distract and shift your focus onto something positive. You may feel tired as grief can be exhausting and may not feel like doing any exercise, however all the muscles of the body hold emotional and physical stress, so it is very important to try and care for both your mental health and your physical health. Gentle exercise can boost energy levels and reduce stress. Doing exercise in a group or with someone can help the feeling of being isolated and exercise can help you to focus on your breathing, which may help in managing strong emotions.

Support available

• App: Grief support for young people by Child Bereavement UK. https://www.childbereavementuk.org/app-grief-support-for-young-people It was developed for 11-25-year-olds who have been bereaved of someone important to them

• Books to read when you are grieving as advised by Winston’s Wish

The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and their Friends (Helen Fitzgerald)

In this unique and compassionate guide, renowned grief counsellor Helen Fitzgerald turns her attention to the special needs of adolescents struggling with loss and gives them the tools they need to work through their pain and grief.

When a Friend Dies: A book for Teens about Grieving and Healing (Marilyn E Gotman.)

This thoughtful and helpful book answers questions about grieving that teenagers often have, like ‘How should I be acting?’ and ‘Is it wrong to go to parties and have fun?’

• Someone to talk to

Having a friend or an adult to talk to about how you are feeling. Someone in school who you trust, your school nurse, a friend or family member.