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Feeling OK With Who I Am

When we’re little, we often don’t think or worry too much about how we look, but as we grow up we can become increasingly concerned about our appearance, start to compare ourselves with others and may feel self-conscious about some parts of our bodies.

We’re hardest on ourselves

When friends say they don’t like the way they look, we often can’t see what they’re worried about. We are naturally far less critical of others and accept them and even like their unique features.

We tend to be hardest on ourselves. If you find yourself saying unkind or critical things to yourself, give yourself a break! Given that we have to live with ourselves and cannot be separated from our own bodies, it’s a good idea to decide to be our own best friend.

Top ways to be kind to yourself

  • Be proud of yourself if you’ve done something well or achieved something great, give yourself some much deserved recognition. We’re often quick to acknowledge the achievements of others, but slow to praise ourselves. Don’t be afraid to give yourself a pat on the back every so often
  • We all make mistakes, so don’t be too hard on yourself, use it as an opportunity to learn, forgive and move on
  • Make some time for yourself- be sure to carve out some time every day to do the things that make you happy. Whether that’s reading a chapter of a book, playing your favourite game or meeting with friends, give yourself a little ‘me’ time each day
  • Take good care of yourself- getting enough sleep, eating healthily and exercising regularly is a great way to be kind to yourself, making sure you are in the best possible condition both physically and emotionally
  • Believe in yourself- it’s okay to want to achieve things in your life, so have faith in your skills and abilities and, most importantly, you as a person. Think highly of yourself, believe in yourself and you’ll be in a great position to go far
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I'm not normal
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There is no definition of normal, as we are all individual and unique and our quirks are what make us who we are. If you're worrying about the way you look, or your feelings about a specific part of your body are stopping you from taking part in every day things, then you may need some more support. You can speak to your school nurse who can help you manage these feelings.
There is no definition of normal, as we are all individual and unique and our quirks are what make us who we are. If you're worrying about the way you look or your feelings about a specific part of your body are stopping you from taking part in every day things, then you may need more support. You can speak to your school nurse who can help you manage these feelings.

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